i really dont know what i should do

opeth

I was forced to make love with my college in my office. NOw i am feeling very bad to my husband.
Should i tell him or just keep secret

any advised
thanks

sliuhao

It is called rape.OMG

mason00

Report sexual offense to your company and police.

KYLIE2008

report to police pls.

sliuhao

you should feeling bad for yourself first, if you said it was forced.....
I do not quite understand.

dcxg

why had you been forced?

ridiculous

妮南

bad feeling.

opeth

The whole story is :
he said he love me before, but i refused. Since that, we are just friend. BUt, he did not give up and alway invite me diner or buy some gift for me. I though we are just friend, so accepted it.
BUt , yesterday in his office he said again he love me very much and will mary with me. Then, he kissed me . I really can not push him away becuase he is very strong man. So, now i am so sad and i don't how to explain this to my husband

sliuhao

原帖由 opeth 于 26-9-2012 16:29 发表

                               
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The whole story is :
he said he love me before, but i refused. Since that, we are just friend. BUt, he did not give up and alway invite me diner or buy some gift for me. I though we are just friend ...

Call/report police first.
That is really sad. You just played the game. And you have the right to report the offence.

[ 本帖最后由 sliuhao 于 26-9-2012 16:48 编辑 ]

mason00

If the problem is how to explain to you husband, then don't explain. But, you really need to cut off.
If you think it's an sexual offense, then you have right to seek justice.

dcxg

原帖由 opeth 于 26-9-2012 16:29 发表

                               
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The whole story is :
he said he love me before, but i refused. Since that, we are just friend. BUt, he did not give up and alway invite me diner or buy some gift for me. I though we are just friend ...

首先，你早就犯错了
男人请你吃饭，送东西基本就不怀好意，你半推半就让男人得寸进尺。
一个男人喜欢你，付出了那么多，心里憋气的很呢。
才有那一幕啊

第二，你太软弱了，如果你不喜欢他，当他不轨之时，一个大嘴巴子就招呼过去，啥事木有了

第三，说明你根本就不喜欢他。

这件事怎么处理，关键在你老公。
如果你老公不在乎你被强暴，垃圾就是不要放过。
问题是你有没有这种自信？

如果报警是个双输的结果，你就要衡量一下是否值得的问题。

sliuhao

原帖由 dcxg 于 26-9-2012 16:48 发表

                               
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首先，你早就犯错了
男人请你吃饭，送东西基本就不怀好意，你半推半就让男人得寸进尺。
一个男人喜欢你，付出了那么多，心里憋气的很呢。
才有那一幕啊

第二，你太软弱了，如果你不喜欢他，当他不轨之时， ...

And to be honest, i found some single males(even have partner) the age over 50 in OZ like young Asian, and sort of this things - tease chicks.
It is sad.

[ 本帖最后由 sliuhao 于 26-9-2012 16:59 编辑 ]

bluemm

人没事儿老送你个礼物，干嘛不给别人呢？是你自己没把握好吧，清醒清醒，看自己想要什么吧。

就别告诉你那可怜的老公了，还想过日子，就换个工作，别稀里糊涂地不知道自己在干什么。

妮南

事已至此了，能理解楼主的心理。内疚、后悔、害怕。

告诉老公肯定伤害到夫妻感情，造成阴影。建议还是别告诉了。

你去告那位男士性骚扰，看来也不成立。因为看来你们也是比较亲密的朋友，一起吃过饭、送过礼物，也不能说是对方强奸。

楼上的建议，换个工作是个办法。另外，再次见到这个人一定要跟他说明：我们不再是朋友了，请你尊重我的家庭。

gong_lz

楼主自己不坚决，可能心里还有点喜欢暧昧，所以才会导致这样的后果。现在已经发生了这种事，今后再见面说是同事或朋友自己都不相信。
要么报警，如果平心而论你觉得自己也有责任的话就换工作，马上！要是既不报警，又不换工作，你只能在这条路上越走越远，他会以为你已经接受了。你LG就别说了，没有男人会受得了这个，除非你想把事情越搞越砸。

说老实话，我觉得你之前还是有责任的，知道他有这种想法还没有明确保持距离，这等同于半推半就，也就是基本同意。sorry,我是男的，如果换作是我就是这么想的。

妮南

西人比较罗曼蒂克，讲究感觉，即使结婚了也只是把你当作情人。

楼主还是要珍惜自己的老公和家庭。

[ 本帖最后由 妮南 于 26-9-2012 18:31 编辑 ]

sliuhao

西人比较罗曼蒂克，讲究感觉，即使结婚了也只是把你当作情人。

Sorry, that is bullshit!

black_zerg

我是进来拜的

妮南

有什么不同观点请讲讲。

阿贞

lz是来逗大家玩的

阿贞

强奸是很难得手的，很多案例其实都是顺奸。回去看看李宗瑞的视频就知道了，按摩女是里面最贞烈的。

sliuhao

原帖由 妮南 于 26-9-2012 19:55 发表

                               
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有什么不同观点请讲讲。

more like a fuck buddy.

妮南

办公室恋情，在国内也常见。
现在我们不得不这么说：婚姻家庭、婚外恋情，西人与华人都是一样的。

忘忧草

WOW，你都看过？！李的女人都太丑了，没兴趣~~

daxiao

都什么跟什么呀

opeth

thanks everyone! I have talked with my husband last night. Unexpectedly he was very peaceful after knowing this. He did not say anything and just say be careful next time.
Now, i am so scared as i don;t know what he try to do. I know he love me so much .....

sliuhao

tear into pieces

daxiao

原帖由 opeth 于 27-9-2012 08:46 发表

                               
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thanks everyone! I have talked with my husband last night. Unexpectedly he was very peaceful after knowing this. He did not say anything and just say be careful next time.
Now, i am so scared as i do ...

既然你老公都知道了，报警吧，在你老公拿刀砍他之前。

Jack_Chow

在得到你老公肯定的答复下，再采取28楼的办法，或者采取以上楼的办法换工作，如果有第二次骚扰，你就可以名正言顺的报警了。如果你老公因此遗弃了你，证明这段感情也没什么可惜的。

maaja

楼主既然已经跟老公说了，就放下吧，一切顺其自然。
如果真的对老公有愧疚，就换个工作，把之前没妥善处理好的关系一刀砍断，重新开始。
如果继续留在原来的工作，处境尴尬，对老公也是一种刺激。
sorry，我是女的。如果是我，真要发生这样的事情，我不会跟老公讲，这对男人始终是一种侮辱，尤其还是进行式的。当然，在一切还没发生以前，就撇清关系了，讨厌暧昧，半推半就的对你的同事而言，也是一种沉默的鼓励。sorry，我实话实说。