[ 本帖最后由 长距离 于 26-3-2007 23:56 编辑 ]作者: chubbycat 时间: 27-3-2007 02:55 标题: 回复 #3 长距离 的帖子 understood, but there's only so much you can do about your cousin. If he could not survive in Canada's college I don't see moving to OZ will do any good for him. Best wishes to your cousin.作者: beysup 时间: 27-3-2007 12:45
劝他还是不要来了，加拿大两年混成那样来澳洲也好不哪去。别再浪费青春了，还是找点事情做吧作者: thewall 时间: 27-3-2007 13:30
... high school graduate can go to uni directly in oz ... plenty of examples around me ...
... but, better let himself decide what he wants to do ... this is a bad case of typical parent indulgence ...
... i would grab the boy's balls, and give it a couple of shakes and ask: are you a man, do u fuck ??? ...
... my dad paid for the ticket and first year tuition fees, and that is it, no more ... he told me when he was applying for my student visa: i have used up all my life savings for you to study abroad, no more that i can support you in term of money, it is up to you to make up your mind what you want to do for your career and life ...
... in fact, i never know how much wealth my dad has, never wanted 2 know either ... BECAUSE I HAVE A WELL-FUNCTIONING BRAIN AND I HAVE ARMS AND LEGS AND I, OF COURSE, FUCK LIKE A MAN ... therefore i am full of gratitute that right from the begining, my dad had made it clear to me - i would be fighting for my own survival from the moment i leave the home i have dwelled and depended upon for my entire humanly existence ...
... you should tell your auntie: the boy is old enough to STAND UP LIKE A MAN, ACT LIKE A MAN, FIGHT LIKE A MAN, and most of all, FUCK like a man !!!...
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[ 本帖最后由 thewall 于 27-3-2007 10:32 编辑 ]作者: thewall 时间: 27-3-2007 13:39
... why my dad wanted to kick me out of home ...
1. in first semester, first year uni in china, i failed 3 subjects
2. i didn't get into a top uni in china
3. i was out of control and out of mind with what i was doing
... 1+2+3= i became a wild horse (not a crazy horse though if you know what that means) that would either become a champion stud, or indeed, a crazy horse out of sight ...
... my dad's strategy is: giving me nothing so i had to learn to survive on my own ... you should tell your auntie not to spoil this boy anymore ...
... KICK HIM OUT OF HOME LIKE WHAT MY DAD DID TO ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .............
[ 本帖最后由 thewall 于 27-3-2007 10:41 编辑 ]作者: 长距离 时间: 27-3-2007 14:04
感谢大家的各种建议,尤其是thewall兄的,可是,大家的理解有点误会,我说他是退学了,是因为他觉得上的学校不好(因为他这个是在国内的时候找中介联系的学校,上的预科,去了上了一段时间之后感觉...鱼龙混杂,他就呆不下去了,然后就自己在那另外找了个语言学校,边打工(据说留学生在那不给打工,不知道他怎么找的工作),边准备考雅思).然而,当他这个月拿到成绩的时候,发现够不着他想去的学校,而也不可能回原来的学校去了,就彻底没学上了,而此时他已经去了有2年了,在国内他的同学大学专科都上完了,他回家真想不出能干什么,什么技术也不会,英语也就那么回事.要我说,我真想叫他去当兵,吃点苦.不过他家人还是喜欢他能接受高等教育,中国父母不都这样么......作者: 长距离 时间: 27-3-2007 14:16
想叫他去澳的原因是他姐我也即将去那边,我能看着他点......问了他他本人也挺愿意.
我觉得自制力很弱的小孩最好还是不要太早出国的好....我弟就是个例子作者: thewall 时间: 27-3-2007 14:22
... i don't believe his explanation ... plenty of schools in Canada ... it is the MENTALITY that matters ...作者: distantmusic 时间: 27-3-2007 14:25
可以理解！
我觉得现在首先要问问这孩子自己喜欢什么，如果他自己有喜欢的东西，上TAFE也不错啊，有了技能，能维持自己的生活，他可以自己选择以后的生活啊，读大学，还是工作都可以靠他自己来奋斗了，父母就是给他个机会，让他有条件开始自己的生活就可以了。
thewall的老爸做得对，呵呵，不过也不能是那种提不起来的孩子啊，那样的话，撒出去就完蛋了。
.退学以后签证就搞不到了(我听他说是这个意思),现在签证即将过期,他就要回国了.